Emotion Focused Couples Therapy
What is EFT?
Relationships are hard and complicated though some would say they are the only thing that truly matters in life. Learning how to not just exist within our relationships but also to grow and thrive is a challenge for even the best relationships. Relationship therapy is an opportunity to attend to the connections most important to us and get support and feedback in a safe space. With the help of Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) your relationship will benefit from a deep dive into the basic human attachments that drew you to you partner and help you reclaim the intimacy that helped you feel safe.
Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) is a structured approach to couples therapy formulated in the 1980’s and has developed alongside the science on adult attachment and bonding to expand our understanding about what is happening in couple relationships and to guide therapists.
EFT is all about attachment which focuses on emotion in the here and now. Simply put EFT is about how we turn toward and away from our most secure relationships in times of distress and helps us understand and work through our cycles of disconnection. When I meet with couples the most frequent complaint is "I feel like we keep having the same fight over and over." EFT is based on the assumption that we all desire to feel safe and connected with our loved ones and works to help individuals better connect with their partners to increase this safety.